Dating a guy with low self confidence
Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon to struggle with a poor self-image, and you may find yourself dealing with feelings of doubt, distrust and even despair.And when you’re constantly bombarded by these negative thoughts and emotions regarding your own sense of self-worth, they can directly impact your relationship with your partner in many different ways.1. In many instances, people with self-esteem issues end up settling in their relationship because they mistakenly believe that they don’t deserve any better.I have been interested in this guy going on 4 years - when we first met I was with someone but the chemistry between us was pretty obvious - it was even to the guy I was with.This man is clearly attracted to me and likes being around me, he has invited me out, and gone out with me on several occasions, and even invited me to spend time with him at his home alone.
It sounds to me like he has a significant self-confidence issue - he has no self-confidence when it comes to women and dating.For the past two years, he has told me about the inner workings of his dating life and it seems quite dire. He's 42, stable, extremely gregarious, and says he wants a long-term relationship with a family and the whole sha-bang.He sees about 2-3 women a month through online dating sites. Unfortunately, he has never been in a committed long term relationship: no kids, no pets, no plants.I'm ten years younger than him, very pretty, sexy, smart, spunky, with a good sense of humor and am everything this guy claims he wants in a lady.
So about a month ago I made thoughtful efforts to strengthen our friendship with the hopes of it developing in to a romantic friendship. They claim that there are clearly glitches in his ability to connect with others. Regardless of whether he was actually interested in me or not, why would a guy whose clock is seriously ticking continually choose throwback chicks that dump him and actively refuse to go out with a woman who can actually give him what he wants (or says he wants)? Let me distill down everything you said into just a few sentences, and I think it will start to make some sense.
Slightly troubled by his bizarre dating habits I asked different men I trusted what they thought about the serial dating but passing over more logical dating choices. They insist he has problems, but finally I bit the bullet and asked him out - and he turned me down! I just would like to make more sense of his behavior. First of all, he typically dates easy women who are socially beneath him - yet these women dump him after two or three dates.